Ratha (papertygre) wrote,

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Life in a commune

Today is just a dud as far as getting any work done is concerned. I am watching my infant niece since she woke up while my sister has been out at the bank and grocery store, and I can't do much else since she gets upset if a human being is not looking her in the face or holding her on their lap every second. I will have to do taxes later (talk about waiting until the last minute, ugh) so that will take quite a few hours this evening. Also, there is household unrest over the abrupt purchase of a digital camera that one of our family members didn't get the chance to contribute to the decision on. So at the moment, this place is full of all kinds of unpleasant energy.

I mentioned to my sister recently an observation that I also think I jotted in LJ a while ago, that it feels like I've moved into a commune. She laughed, because she had my car keys in her hand and was about to go fill up my tank on the way to doing her errands. Since then, she's been calling it the "communal car" (as the Explorer she shares with her husband is already in Florida, with her husband.) We act like a commune in other ways. We all (my sister, mom, dad, and I) accept the responsibility to watch the kids whenever there's nobody else to do so; my sister and I make dinner whenever no one else gets the inspiration to cook; and all of us do our work (packing, and doing finance and web development for PC Torque) without really thinking about being paid or anything at all materialistic like that. (As I mentioned before, that is supposed to be dealt with for me, but right now we are in start-up mode and I don't have any living expenses anyway.) The only thing non-commune-like about it is that we occasionally go to the mall, where I bought two CDs and a purse the other day after getting my hair cut. But that was sort of an unusual luxury.

Anyway, then there was this disagreement about the camera. Not a very expensive one either - $300. The person who feels slighted in this case believed he had some right to contribute to the decision of which camera to buy, but when others decided they didn't want to hem and haw any more because they wanted the camera in time to use it before we moved out, they went ahead and bought it with the rationalization that it was for one particular person. However, the aggrieved party believes the camera was bought with communal money and for theoretically communal use, so he is pissed. I really believe it is another symptom of how this communitarian stuff is sort of demoralizing and demotivating. I don't know if it makes sense to me for a married couple to share a bank account - then you don't really have anything that's yours. So yeah, everything seems to have become a blurry soup. But I guess on the other hand, it does simplify a lot and it provides a cozy, toasty nest where I feel like I contribute.
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